who says periods have to be spooky? (Halloween edition)
Whether you're in a relationship or flying solo, your period doesn't have to be a reason to avoid intimacy, pleasure, or even sex. With that, let's clear up some common myths and highlight why periods and intimacy can totally coexist, without the need for any haunted house vibes.
1. There’s Nothing Wrong or Harmful About Intimacy on Your Period (As Long As Everyone’s Comfortable!)
The number one rule? Consent and comfort first! Just like any other time, being intimate while on your period is all about checking in with yourself and your partner(s). If you feel good, and everyone involved is on the same page, then there’s no reason to avoid it just because someone is menstruating. Contrary to outdated myths, there’s no harm in having sex while on your period (though pregnancy and STI transmission is still a possibility!). The main thing is to be considerate of everyone’s comfort levels. Some folks may be more into the idea, others may prefer to skip it—but no one should feel pressured or judged for their personal preference. Communication is key!
2. Period Sex Can Be About More Than Just the Physical—It Can Be a Way to Feel Cared For
Period sex isn't just about getting experiencing that O—it can actually be a deep and compassionate experience. Many people find that intimacy during menstruation helps them feel more emotionally supported and cared for. It can be a great way to connect, release tension, or simply feel closer to your partner. Some folks also turn to period sex for other reasons too, including: it can help ease cramps, relax the body, and promote better sleep. Who knows, period intimacy might just be the ultimate self-care ritual you've been missing out on!
3. Get Creative with Comfort: There’s a Whole Toolbox of Options to Make Things Easier
If you're worried about mess or discomfort, no problem—there’s an abundance of tools out there designed to make cycle sex more comfortable for everyone involved. You can use tampons, menstrual cups, condoms or even Lorals dental dam underwear for extra protection and/or comfort. Some may choose to use items like a towel to keeps things less messy! There are plenty of options to choose from, so you can tailor the experience to what feels best for you and your partner(s).
4. Bodies Will Body—And That’s 100% OK
Bodies are unpredictable, and during your period, things can sometimes feel a little different. You might notice changes in smell, taste, or even the texture of (certain fluids) in your body—and that’s totally normal! It’s also important to remember that your body is yours and deserves no judgment, whether you’re on your period or not. Embrace (and maybe learn about) those changes rather than shying away from them. Maybe you'll notice that certain touches feel better or that you're more sensitive during your cycle—and that’s all part of the experience. No one should ever make you feel bad about how your body works. Whether it’s the sweet scent of fresh blood or the intensity of your cramp-relief orgasm, these moments are part of the beautiful, unique experience that is you.
5. You Get to Decide What Feels Best to You!
Curiosity is totally natural. Maybe you’re reading this thinking, “I’ve never tried sex on my period, but I’m curious.” Or perhaps you’ve given it a shot, and it wasn’t your thing. That’s 100% OK! What matters is that you get to make the call. Everyone’s body is different, and your preferences are yours alone. There’s no shame in enjoying or avoiding period intimacy—it’s all about what feels best for you. There’s no right or wrong, only what makes you feel celebrated, comfortable, and satisfied.
So let’s ditch the horror stories and embrace our periods for what they are: part of a natural, powerful cycle that shouldn’t be shrouded in fear or shame. Instead, let’s celebrate the full-bodied, confident, and enthusiastic “yes!” moments that come from embracing our bodies exactly as they are—periods and all.
This Halloween, let’s take the "scary" out of periods and make them part of the magic of being human. After all, there’s nothing more powerful than feeling good in your skin—and that includes every cycle, every moment, and every body. 🖤
